I think this is an example of how it has to be a balance. I need to feel like I'm in control in therapy in terms of knowing when too much is too much, but I also need my T to be in control, because she has the education and experience that I do not have.

There also has to be a balance between pushing for change (which I expect my T to do, because without change how can I get better?) and accepting me where I am, with the limitations that I have.

so, yes, I need my T to be directive and I need her to listen to me. It can be both. There are times I speak out of emotion mind, usually fear, and there are times I speak out of wise mind. I need my T to know the difference and push me beyond my fear but not beyond the limits I have set in wise mind. In the end I have to steer my own ship, but I need to T teach me how to do that.