I told my t i wanted her to hug me for years before she finally was willling. By that time, it didn't feel so healing because it felt forced. Now she will do it if i ask, but i rarely ever do. There have been a couple of times she has offered either a hug or has patted my back during difficult trauma work. But i get the sense that she's not all that comfortable with it. It feels kind of stiff. She told me once she has some clients who hug her after every session, so i'm not sure why she's been so hesitant with me. She mentioned my SA history, but that was with a male, so her touching me doesn't cause me flashbacks or anything. I wish my t had been (and was) more more giving in the area of touch because my family didn't offer comfort and i feel like inside i really, really need it.