I've hugged group therapists before and worked on it with them (shook hands at first :-) but not my regular Ts. I think it depends on both people, whether the T feels like a huggable sort of person to you or not?
My daughter-in-law always hugs when she sees you and is a very warm person and I have no trouble hugging her. But I learned to touch/hug by giving my stepmother a backrub when she was old and ill. It brought back a lot of memories and feelings from when I was a child and she'd rub my back and "healed" a lot of stuff from inbetween, kind of connected me back to that child I was.
If I were to do it all again (before my giving my stepmother a backrub) I would maybe talk with T about what I want in a hug; it's not an easy conversation, almost up there with how you feel about moving in with T and living with her :-) but probably helpful connecting what touch means for one and where it's been "warped" or how you've been hurt/rejected/rejecting, etc. Touch is a very important thing and I think can open up other healing pathways in our head and heart.
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