I think your T might have meant they liked their job the best and only if they didn't have their current job would they choose the other, not that they were only staying in their current job because they didn't want to let down their clients. The other would be their second choice.

I think if my T shared what she did I'd talk to her about what you are thinking, that she might not be happy in her job and about the many viewpoints that can be taken from the same words and how we often get things wrong/backwards/"differently" :-) than what other people mean.

My mother died when I was very young and was sick from before I was born and when she was finally operated on when I was 2 and they told her and my father that she was dying, my father told my aunt, "If we had known that, we wouldn't have had Perna."

Well, I figured out how to view that in a way that makes me feel good: I can see his saying, in effect, "Geez, good thing we didn't know that or we wouldn't have had Perna and life wouldn't have been as sweet!"