Thanks, Zen for your kind reply. Thanks for not condenming right away.

You're pretty much right on in your assessment of my emotional life. But I'd like to ask you, or anyone, if we acknowledge this need for a close intimacy with another human being (and for a man it'd seem natural that it'd be with a woman) . . . . .what do you do when your spouse repeatedly turns down, or cannot given you the level of intimacy that you need? In spite of all your attempts?

How does one meet that need. I know that affairs ARE NOT the answer. But I have to say, given my life, ANY woman that's pretty nice to me runs a risk of me attaching to her. Especially if we have YEARS to build a friendship. That's my level of need of friendship/intimacy here.

What would you do?

MMF