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Old Aug 19, 2010, 02:48 PM
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Hi, pinkpony. I don't know how old you are or if you live with your parents, go to school or have a job or what your circumstances are. I don't know if your parents give you money and you pay your therapist or if they and your therapist made an arrangement about the cost?

If it is helping you, that is what both you and your parents want; I would keep with what is working. I would let your parents know, in no uncertain terms, that it is helping you and I would try to verbalize for them, a few examples of how it is helping you.

I presume your therapist knows whether you are paying the bills or your parents are helping you pay the bills? I know how squeamish talking to one's therapist is about money but maybe you can approach it along the lines of your actual problem, which is how you feel about your parents difficulties paying? It is possible the therapist could offer a lower rate and/or suggest that fewer sessions a week would be okay for you or could give an idea of how much longer at this many sessions might help you, etc. Wrap your head around the idea that it's all "information" you are looking for, and semi-pretend it doesn't have anything to do with you, personally (other than it might, in fact, be a good idea to talk about how you feel about your parent's and your predicament, where you need help and they are paying). Remember that the therapist has probably had a lot of different scenarios and clients with different money situations so will be rather matter-of-fact discussing it with you which might make it more comfortable for you too.

I went twice a week in a back-to-back session (100 minutes all together) which was very helpful to me. Maybe you would like to experiment with different modes and see if one worked as well as what you're doing now? It's very nice to have a "chunk" of time to work in instead of having it split up, for me at least. If you see your therapist 5 times a week, ask if you can see them in two, two-session-at-a-time sessions (which would get you down to 4 times a week).

It's very individual how often one sees the therapist and depends on your time, the therapists time and orientation (if you are in psychoanalysis, it probably should stay 3-5 times a week but your therapist should/have explain/ed that to you and why you are seeing them so often.

I would be a chicken and approach talking to my therapist by saying something like, "My parents are having a bit of difficulty with the amount of money they are helping me with by paying for my therapy." Then I'd ask about whether there's a chance of reduced fees or a different way to set up the hours so they're as productive but fewer hours, etc.
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Thanks for this!
pinkpony