Hello, Trying!

About calling your friends and being turned down. It's a good subject. I don't know how many of us realize (before T's teach us how to realize) that without even saying anything all of us radiate information to other people. I used to have the same problem you complain about: people rejected me, didn't want to be my friend, wouldn't agree to go do anything with me. And then I found out that I was a "needy" person. A person who (unconsciously) was trying to latch on to others for support and help. Well, the fact is that other than here on PC, that kind of message is not well received. People don't want to be around "needy" people. It's a burden to them. They want to be with people who contribute something to group enjoyment. Can you change this? Absolutely. I've done so, and so have many others. If you can confine your neediness to PC, you can learn how not to be needy to your IRL friends. And based on what you say (though I'm no professional by any means), that's the problem. You CAN overcome this. And it does NOT take a long time. It would be better if you did it with a therapist (a T), since it will take quite a bit longer just by yourself. But don't be downhearted, you can and will reverse the situation and be the life of the party! Take care.