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Old Aug 19, 2010, 04:42 PM
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When I'm really frightened because I feel helpless and cornered, I get angry. I then use that anger to help get me out of the frightening corner.

Maybe try to blurt the whole mess out in one run-on paragraph?

"It makes me angry and frustrated that I can't just talk to you like I want to! The North Koreans might bomb Okinawa where my son is and I can't even tell you how anxious that makes me feel! My work keeps moving me around and writing me up and gives me no way to do any sort of decent job and I can't sort it out in my too full, crazy head, either to help them help me or to help myself. I'm afraid my stepmother is going to die and I just can't go there! I practically have an anxiety attack just thinking it. I try to cope but I'm using really bad, unhealthy and risky behaviors and feel so ashamed about that."

I did that the first time I saw my T again after 9 years; just talked a mile a minute the whole time; at the end when we were getting ready to leave she said her head was spinning, LOL. That's part of how T's work, how you can help her know how you feel; if you gush a whole lot of the anxious feelings you are feeling, she too will get some idea what it's "like" to be you, a sense of what it's like to have all this whirling around in her head, etc. She wants that! You need to get some of that anxiety out, with her, like its a bad wound that needs cleaning.
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Thanks for this!
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