My wife was sexually abused by her grandfather multiple times. This makes intimacy challeging at best. I seem to hit triggers all the time not knowing where or what they are. I love her deeply, and have been married for 25 years and intend on staying that way. I am Bipolar, or so they say so we make a very interesting couple to say the least. We have approached many problems in life with humor ( you have to laugh at yourself ) but lately I notice my wife really struggling. I know some recent stress is triggering some flashbacks ( her father dying of cancer ), is there anything I can do to help her, or should I not "push the issue. I require a lot of emotional support from her to get through my issues, should I back off and look elsewhere? My wife is the one in her family that everone looks to solve things ( 4 siblings that are helpless ). Should I tell them to grow up!. I'm afraid she will finally "break". She puts up a good front, but I know this is triggering all kinds of memories that I can't begin to understand. Help