hey, i'm not sure i can help with advise but i can relate. it's sometimes difficult to be the possitive one for both of us but i have also learned that the battles i choose have dwindled down more and more lately, i try not to but i find myself tuning out the discussion when it it get's unneccessarily agrivated. patients, good music, and my camera really help. it's fine line between happyness and denile. but sometimes, it's whatever works. i don't know if that made any sense, haha. keep yer head up and yes kill m'skeetoooos!!!