I wonder if Melbadaze is right. I'm one of those folk who are attracted to "needy" type people. At least to my wife, and we've been a couple for 42 years. A large part of why we're together for so long is that I feel so strongly that she needs me to take care of her. She certainly is not sending out such signals consciously, she's not that sophisticated. But I'm completely convinced that she could not take care of herself. It certainly isn't true now (she's sliding into dementia), but it wasn't true 42 years ago when we first got together, either. I myself haven't the slightest idea why I would be attracted to needy people. We got together first when I was 23. And I have no memory of having been with needy women before that. There are none such in my family. There was just something so NECESSARY about her when I met her. I've loved her all the time for 42 years. Now she REALLY needs me. And I'm very willing to take care of her. I do not know why. Take care.