(((( darkrunner )))) I am always just honest with my T. But one of my "dad issues" was that when he was using me as his therapist when I was a child, he would sit there and bawl and I had to talk him out of SU sometimes. It really made me not want to be emotionally close to him. I felt that I wasn't safe to love him because he might just decide to end things. So I do know what it does to someone to be on the recieving end of that conversation.

Of course my T is not a child and I am not the parent. And he is trained to deal with things like this. So I think that the T is the right person to talk to about these things. I suppose that post just floored me in a way - kinda like it made me think maybe my T was feeling the way I did when my dad was saying things. And that made me wonder if I was subconsciously making it more obvious to T how I think than I would be normally. Almost like it is threatening him - "DON'T CARE ABOUT ME! I WILL HURT YOU!" ?????