Ian,
I am sorry that you felt no real reason to be here. From my corner of this group, I "know" these people here better than some people in 3D............they are an open, genuinely caring group of people - if you allow them to be. Maybe that was the problem?
You don't have to meet someone for them to know you. Looks don't matter - open, honest communication does.
Glad you are doing well.
Mary Alice