I left my parents, i thought, i you can divorce a husband/wife then i can divorce my parents, it doesn't mean that they disapear out of my head, i have mental arguments with my mother, but usually it's because some thing has triggered of the unfairness of their stance in the hear and now, so i have a row, i've even been known to row into a tape just to really get it off my chest and it passes and i get on with my life.

just because they gave birth to you, doesn't mean you owe them anything, especially if they are not willing to treat you right. what i'm saying you have choices, but if you do take the step to leave them, make sure you have some other support elsewhere, xmas time is my worse time, it's real co-incidence that i've joined now, i guess. and i feel like an orphan, but i keep working it through and slowly but slowly, they become less important. find others to give you what you want from them. and try and find a way that you can give yourself what you want from yourself.

i want validation from mine, that my feelings as a child and now are real and that they were abusive to me, they won't give me this, so i have found this validation from elsewhere and eventually i am able to validate my own truth. it took time. it was worth it.

take care. my thoughts are with you. i can really relate, cos i still feel anger, but it is sparodic and i just don't engage with them.

i haven't seen my parents since 1997, we did xmas cards and birthday cards sparodically until about 3 years ago. it is not easy, but it is not hard either.

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