Yoda... I too am so glad you have money coming in...one less stressor is always a good thing. And I hear you on your son. Mine's younger, and it's not video games with him, but it can be a very frustrating thing. I try to remind myself that ultimately he is responsible for how he chooses to live his own life, as we all are (and we really wouldn't have it any other way, you know?). One does what one can, but we can't really change another person, as much as we'd like to see them make other choices.

I'm not at all a hoarder, and can tell you that I think it is completely fair to keep your pants!!! (Lol, if you showed up at an appt. with her with no pants, she might see that that particular idea is patently ridiculous! If not, you could have me talk to her. I'd give her what for on that subject!
(If I may ask, what is hoarding associated with? I've always wondered, as my mother is definitely a hoarder and it's gotten far worse over the years.)

I'm so sorry that you are feeling so unmotivated at this time. May that switch flip soon for you.