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Old Nov 28, 2003, 01:35 PM
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My therapist loves to tell me that if I don't acknowledge my feelings they will build up to a point of exploding. Sort of like a boiling pot - the key is to take the lid off a little at a time to let some of the steam escape.

If she is holding all these emotions in, eventually she will over load - I know this from past and current issues. It is very hard to talk about things - much easier to just "carry on".

Try to get your wife to talk about things a little at a time - empathize with her feelings and relay them back to her, like "I bet these memories are bringing up some old feelings, aren't they?" Even if she just answers "yes", at least you have your foot in the door. If you continue to do this, she may very well begin to go into more detail with you.

You lose nothing by trying - in fact, it shows how very much you care about her feelings.

My therapist is the only one I talk to, other than the people here. I am not able to talk to my husband.

Mary Alice