He has traits of asperger's, ADHD, OCD, anxiety, but he could also be just shy and quirky. He has difficulty adjusting to new situations, and would cry when he doesn't get his way or he is so worried that he will be different. A few months ago he developed a lip balm addiction. He slathers it on his skin around his lip, mostly when he is nervous. He freaks when he runs out or misplaces his tube. Last night he woke up without lip balm, and my husband give him another tube in a flavor he didn't like. So, he cried for half the night, and my husband even slept in the same bed trying to comfort our son without using the lip balm, like offering drinks of water, or counting sheep, or deep breathing. Maybe we are too spoling, letting him get so attached to something that is falsely giving him relief. His lips aren't dry, if anything it's creating a skin problem. We visited a psychologist, and he seemed the wrong one, he didn't offer any solid diagnosis or plan of action. We visited him 6 times with this distressing problem, and finally discontinued services with that man. I am trying to be a lay psychologist and research things I can do for him, but I never seem to figure out what I should be doing. I am very worried that starting a new school year will make his anxiety worse. The issues are bigger than buying him a tube of lipbalm everyday, I think it's a huge control issue. He also is a picky eater, and we limit activities if we think he can't handle it. We have a 5 year old that behaves more appropriately in public that our 8 year old.