Hi Savvy,

I'm so sorry ot hear things have been extra hard. The important thing is to take care of you. Maybe you could say something to your guy like, " I have been diagnosed with clinical depression and what that mean is this... you can't fix it for me and and you didn't do anything to cause it. I'm just having a bad day today but it feels nice to hear your voice."

I guess one thing that has helped in my relationship is that my partner knows that I am "working on it." So it is important that I keep going to therapy etc. So she know she doesn't have to try and fix it because I am doing that.

Does your husband feel guilty because he thinks his leaving causes your depression to get worse? If you think that may be part of it... maybe you could talk over this specific thing with a couples therapist. It could be confusing because it is totally normal to have his leaving make you sad. Are you in therpay now?

I have found therapy super helpful to understand where my emotions are getting pushed and pulled (in my relationship) and this helps me explain things more clearly to my partner.

Sending good thoughts and wishes your way.

E