hi lily,

this thread might help you too:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showt...63#post1413363

but incase you don't feel like reading it, here's what i posted there. it's from a book called 'in sesson' by deborah lott. it's about love in therapy, thought it might help you as it helped me:

"There are ample reasons why a person in psychotherapy might give herself over to love rather than to the more problematic connection of psychotherapy. Love seems to promise a surer, quicker, more pleasurable road to health and happiness than the rigors of treatment. When a person enters therapy partly because of difficulties in loving and being loved, there is a certain logic and efficiency in bypassing the middleman and believing that the solution lies in securing the therapist's love. 'If the arbiter of mental health loves me,' he or she may think, 'I must be ok; if the one who knows me better than anyone else loves me, I must be supremely lovable.'"