I don't understand the quote from In Session, though the book has been very helpful to me. Why are you "bypassing the middleman" if you feel like your T loves you, or you love T? You still have to go through the "rigors of treatment." I thought her book in general justifies love for your T, but it doesn't seem like it in that paragraph.

tree, what you said.....the attachment is wanting T to love me; loving T is more what love is supposed to be--unselfish caring about someone else. In that case, I was attached to my former T, but I think I'm attached AND love my new T.