I'm so sorry treehouse that you are having the intermittent T syndrome My T often went out of town like that, for 2 weeks here, back a week, out for 3, etc.

I remember it was one of those two or three month periods when I only saw her 4 or 5 times that my 30th high school reunion took place. This happened in a neighborhood where I use to live (on my own) and had seen T 15 years earlier, was about high school (30 years earlier) with an old, lived-out-of-town girlfriend I hadn't seen for years (we roomed together at the hotel where the reunion was) and my class had students who had gone to both the elementary schools I went to before I moved after 3rd grade. The original kindergarten I started at was when we lived where my mother died. Did I say this was my high school reunion, high school where I was miserable, lonely, and felt like a loser?

Meanwhile, back at the ranch, my T was away that week

What I did to help myself was put it all "on hold". I thought of each major issue as a whole "chunk" and boxed each in my head under an umbrella name like "high school reunion" and refused to separate out the individual snakes threatening to wrap around my neck and choke me :-) Putting up with any anxiety and "geez this is bad!" thinking was easier than actually attempting to address it before T got back on our regular schedule. Think of it like a wardrobe and you have a bunch of different outfits. If new stuff comes up related, hang it in the closet and shut the door! You can worry about whether they need airing or mending or taking to the cleaners later, when T gets back and can look at them with you.