I've decided its time to divorce my husband. We've been married for 9 years. When he met, he seemed so responsible, honest, reliable, mature, hardworking......He was also a salesman. Which I"ve found meant, he also sold himself to me. Well, he sold me a bill of goods! He isn't who he pretended to be. In the 9 years that we've been married, he has been unemployed for at least 4. When he has worked, he hasn't made the kind of money he made when we met. AT the time he had a good job, but he quit because since he worked such long hours, he was afraid if we didn't spend enough time together I would leave him! Shoot! I don't mind being alone, never did. Prefer it actually. On top of the financial issues, he is a pathological liar. He will tell lies about things that don't even matter. They just roll off of his tongue. Partly from being a pathological liar, partly from being a salesman and partly from being a drug addict. Yep, on top of all of our other problems (we also have had no sex life, pretty much since we married!) he likes pain pills.

Oh, the pills. the things he does to get these pills. He has stolen checks from me (I certainly dont have him on my checking account) and forged them to pay for drugs. He's cancelled a mortgage payment so that he could take that money for drugs. He has sold our generator (we live in FL, Hurricane Country! A generator is as important as having air to breathe), sold jewelry, sold some mini-bikes, just recently he sold his laptop (but tells me he LENT it. To his DRUG DEALER!). Since I never thought I would have to take inventory in my own house, I don't know what else he has stolen. Just recently found out that he steals from my parents, "borrows" money from my parents, steals money from my parents. And lies about it all. Funny thing, is all along, I've stupidly been giving him money for drugs because he is afraid of withdrawal. I know that would be horrible. So, if I'm providing money, why the need for more? Of course, since this all has come to a head these past two weeks, I havent given him a cent. But, he still has drugs! How?

The damage he has done to my family is the last straw. I will be seeing a lawyer next week. I've told hubby to go. I want him gone. BUT, we have a mortgage. Both of our names are on it. He says I can have the house, but the battle has not yet begun. He is unemployed, has no money, no friends, no family, his car barely works. Where can he go? How can he support himself? I'm not feeling sorry for him. Its just reality. Since the house is both of ours, I can't call the police and have them put him out. I can't forcibly make him leave. Of course there is no proof of his stealing and lies.

What can I do? I hate my life right now.