I remember being a bit frustrated with originalT, that he didn't push me or challenge me. When I might have distorted thinking, he did not tell me my thinking was incorrect, he might say "What about this?" or "Have you ever considered it this way?"
Then I'd spend time later thinking "why did he say THAT" but in the process I'd be thinking about his suggestion.
I realize that his approach in therapy was to give me all the options/ideas. Then I'd consider them against my original thinking. Then I'd come back and ask "I"m wondering what will happen if I try this?" We'd hash it out. Then I'd have a chance to try it IRL, and it might work great. Now I really OWN those changes.
It was a slow process - I'd reach a level of understanding about what I was not happy about, I'd understand why it was so, I'd understand what might be an alternative. Then I'd try it out. Then I'd report on trying it out. I might practice in a session.

New girlT says she's definitely CBT in her orientation, and perhaps originalT was mostly analytical (Jung)? She's telling me things, challenging me. OK, that's fine. But I am analytical, so I challenge her back (bosses LOVE this). I'm also from a long line of controlling people who always think they are right and don't really have total respect for the other person (our wives and husbands love this).