I don't need to see myself as any of those things? What other people see doesn't say whether we are/are not those things. Do you want to be "hot"? What does being "hot" mean to you? That's all that counts. If you think being hot means wearing certain clothes, then you'll probably buy and wear clothes like that. Otherwise, if "John" calls you hot, a saucy shrug is enough, if being hot is not important to you; you just accept that John likes you and that he thinks he is expressing that by calling you "hot".

Other people see you as beautiful. You know how it's hard it is to define the word, "nice"? (Try it, what does nice mean? Well, when someone else calls us a word, we really only get the gist of what they're saying. Usually it's like saying, "Hi, how are you?" as a greeting, it just says they're thinking of you positively.