I don't think other people can really tell us much? I don't think anyone's thinking is wrong or distorted, it just works/doesn't work very well in our particular world I remember the multi-colored "sun" glasses of the 1960's and how, after you'd worn the pink or baby blue or purple glasses for a bit, you'd take them off and the world would look that way. Well, that's not "distorted" to my way of thinking, that's just what I was seeing in my little world. True, if I hadn't had those glasses on I would have seen something different but that doesn't make what I would have seen as better/worse or right/wrong, just different. The problem often lies in the fact that most other people one is around will see things in an "agreed" upon way and if we don't see thing that way, then we're going to be swimming upstream and some people are picky about who they let spawn in "their" pond

I have trouble with the CBT therapists because I have trouble with remembering not to pay attention to my opinion yet when I haven't tried what the other person is suggesting. I do a lot of reading and think I know a lot but have learned the most useful knowledge for me is experience. So, when a CBT type says to try X, I'm probably going to have thought of X and probably going to have a negative opinion of X, if only because the other person suggested it :-) I'll be quick with why it won't work but my "theories" won't have any personal experience behind them so aren't worth a whole lot, even to myself. Mr. Langley was sure he could fly too but took the Wright Brothers experiments to get and keep the dang plane off the ground.