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Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon
Hello Missquestions,
When you are dating or living with someone who has anxiety and depression, you are dating or living with someone who doesn't understand themself any more that you do.
Yes they are oversensitive but that sensitivity is quite possible because they feel they they have no more right to life than a mosquito, in fact they feel as insignificant as a mozzie and it's quite possible he was thinking of the sacredness of all life no matter how small the being is living it. Sounds very deep I know, but believe me people who suffer depression are probably the deepest thinkers in the world and is it because of depressives that philosophy is alive. And it is because of philosophy that psychiatry and psyhcology exists.
We are really sensitive Miss, and we can't really apologise for that because it is the part of us that in disorder there is little we can do about it as we battle to understand why or what right we have to live among everyone else on this planet.
Depression to me and my experience is the total polarity of violence and any violent act. Seeing violence when depressed hurts more, and deeper than you could possibly imagine. Seeing someone doing something loving or brave brings us to tears because we wished the whole world was like that. Again, we are sensitive, but we are caring.
The anxiety is something that is more difficult to explain. It is like a constant worry an agitation, a fear that will simply not go away. and we have no clue where it comes from and we are powerless to fight it. There are relaxation techniques, breathing, meditations etc, as well as medications; very little other than medication works for me personally.
It is a long hard road sometimes for people with depression, and harder too for those who live with a depressive, but there are just as many good days as bad. I love my partner more than I can express, but he has his days of frustration with me, and at times I see that he is depressed too and I am sure it is because our life has changed so much from what it used to be. But the love is stronger. Good luck with your problems, I hope you can work them out,
Rhiannon
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Hi,
Thank you for your advise. For the past couple of days , it's been harder and harder, not only that his problems has affected but our relationship is taking a big toll. I feel as I am trying to help him but at the same time I am going to get depressed soon from all these problems. We have been arguing for the past couples of days, we have been arguing every week once or twice a week at least. This is more stress then I can handle on a daily bases. I love him and I really do and I want to work things out but at some point I don't know how much I can deal with his mood swings and now I feel like I need the help or our relationship needs to be saved.
For another instance with today , he got angry with me about driving directions. I am not the best person to ask for directions and he knows it but he interrogates me to the point where i feel pressure and when I can't give him the right directions he gets angry/upset with me. I am starting to feel that everyday is a new battle and not knowing what else we are going to fight about that day.