I wanted to see what every one thought about paying for things in a relationship. I grew up in a culture where the women are not suppose to pay for anything if we do we are looked differently. I have tried not to let those things bother me since we are now living in the 20th century and things has changed. Women simply doesn't stay home anymore they have degrees/careers like the men also. Here is my scenario:

I am not living with my boyfriend, we have been dating for the past eight months I moved in about 5 months of our relationship. He figured it would be best for me to pay off my debt and help with rent here but only a small amount. I know on our anniversary dinner he pays and most of the time we go out he pays. I usually buy all the grocery and household stuff and stuff for the kitties (3). TOday he mentioned that last night he spent a lot of money while we were out and that if I can get lunch today. When the check came he paid but asked if I could pay for the other stuff when we ran our errands. I paid for the stuff for the cats which was about 50 dollars or so then we went to Target and I asked if we can separate our stuff and for him to pay for some. Today I 've noticed that when he asked "DO YOU MIND?" i guess that basically means, "Do you mind paying for the stuff" so of course for the first time today I said yes I do , why don't you take care of the stufff that you have and I'll take care of this stuff. I am a bit irritated that I have to pay for more stuff for today. When we got into the car he pretended that it didn't happen which is rare for him to let things go like that . So I dont know who should pay for what in a relationship?