I think that every relationship is different. personally I like to pay my own way - in everything. That way I feel like I am 'pulling my weight' so to speak.
With my previous relationship, we would both want to pay, who ever got in first and handed over the cash won - it bacame a sort of game really.
Now with my current BF we take it in turns, say we go away for a weekend, then I'll pay for the accomodation and he'll pay for the dinners out etc. Seems to work out fine.

My bestfriend has just had a baby and wants to go back to work so that she can contribute to the household and at the very least pay off the debts that she had before they were a family. Her other half earns enough to support them all and expects her to live off his wage - Her and I agree that if the debts were there prior to the relationship then they need to be paid by her... But most men (3 that I have talked with about this) see to think that once you are in a relationship then the debts become part of the relationship...

For thinking the way that I do I have been called stubborn LOL

I guess every relationship is different. I like to be independant so paying for myself makes me feel more secure that I am not obligated to anyone.