((((Mayple))))((((Lilly))))

Thank you for reaching out and posting. I know it is so scary for it is scary for us all. For all of us being able to trust and reach out is not easy and it takes time. Taking time and learning how to trust and reach is a good thing. Risking is hard but if we never risk we will never know if we could do it, and if we never risk we leave ourselves alone and not giving us the chance to know that all people are not bad.

Sometimes in taking a chance we allow ourselves a chance to grow and to learn. Even though it is so scary and I validate your fears, if we do not try we will never know that it could be possible. Trusting takes time and it is smart to take your time to trust. I think you are doing a great job and asking questions is good too.

Each time we reach we move a little farther out of that place that we have always been in. Sometimes we get hurt and we have to regroup and try again. But here you are safe to reach as you can and feel safe enough to reach. There are no expectations or judgement as you do what you can. If all you can do is sign your name that is good enough. In time you will find your trust and your words and you will feel safe enough.

I know it is scary and I know that even reading this is scary. You are very brave to reach out and to ask for help. I know it can feel scary about helping someone and being afraid of hurting them. We all feel that within too and many times we will pull back because of that fear. But I believe that you will do a fine job as you learn to take little steps in reaching out and reaching back.

Taking baby steps so not to overwhelm you and that way you have the control. When we take big steps we do not leave ourselves any room for learning or chancing. To reach out is hard and we need time to learn who and what is safe. Give yourself permission to take a step out and then step back in and see if that felt okay. If it did then you can take another step maybe a little farther out. If it did not feel so good then give yourself some time and then try it again when you feel okay.

I know it is scary and that it is hard doing things for the first time. Know that we are here to listen and encourage you. If you need anything feel free to PM me. Know that we care and are listening and hear what you are saying. Sending gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps