I'm glad you will be able to continue to work with Jeremy. Yay!
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Originally Posted by gelfling
He expressed concern that he would not be available enough for me - and that if i had a problem that i would be out there on my own and he didnt feel that was acceptable.
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Despite his comment about it being hard to care for someone who is suicidal, it sounds here like he does care for you a great deal.
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But then later told me that he would not work with me with out an emergency contact - but no one i know is able to be an available contact for me - told him i cant give him something i dont have - but he refused to see me anymore with out it - i gave in and gave him my boyfriends number - but he doesnt answer when i call - why would jeremy have any better luck?
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Because you will tell your boyfriend that you have given his name to your T as an emergency contact and that he should make sure and answer his phone if your T calls.
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he wants me in group therapy preferably with DBT therapist in addition to working with him
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It sounds like he is being very clear about the conditions under which he can continue to work with you. I believe he is doing this because he cares and he knows he cannot be there 24/7 for a suicidal client. I have read here in this forum that DBT therapists let their clients call them outside of office hours, so perhaps this would provide a higher level of support that will be really helpful for you.
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he said we could continue to work for a few weeks while we looked for a group
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Sounds like a good plan. He could call his therapist colleagues and ask around to see if they know of any groups. If this doesn't occur to him, you can suggest it. Also, perhaps Joel knows of a DBT group. It seems important to make this a key issue to discuss next time. You could each review your progress on finding a DBT group and brainstorm on other ways to find a group.
I don't think he is being too rigid. He is being very clear on the conditions under which he is able to help you. He is using the relationship between you as leverage to get you to seek the help you need. Therapists do this all the time.
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i seem to keep hitting brick walls - stumbling blocks - is it always this hard?
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It sounds to me like you are moving forward. Yes, therapy can be really hard! Good luck with the hunt for a group.
