Does this work well for you? I would not concentrate on other people and what they are doing, who they are with, their choices but would try to understand myself. Sounds like you have a good start, Evening, you know you want to be with someone but are afraid. What stops you from working on this with a competent therapist; making friends with who you are so you don't have to worry that someone else will hurt you because you will be able to care for yourself adequate to not get in that position or, if in that position, able to deal with it?