I see this is an old thread, but, I wanted to give my opinion here after reading everyone's posts.

By the way, this is my first day here, so please go easy on me if I make a mistake.

I'm a 31 female, but I can remember being 9. I also have a daughter that is nine, almost 10. I am a stay-at-home mom also, unlike the mother involved in this thread who works 3 jobs!

At nine years old, I, myself, had experience with some intimate relations and nudity. However, at that age, I had NO idea was come was, nor did I know anything about ejaculation.

My daughter is 9 and we have already had the "sex talk" with her to an extent. I still don't think she knows the word "come" or understand ejaculation at all. She certainly would never dream up or fantasize a man licking it up either.

Having been molested as a child (not raped), I can tell you that there are sexually excitable things for even young children. That is to say, that once I was old enough to be sexually turned on, I was not as opposed to molestation. Sometimes I enjoyed it and felt very wanted and didn't understand why it was even wrong or bad at the time. At the same, the things I did enjoy, with the people I did enjoy them with, I kept a secret because I liked it and didn't want it to stop. I wouldn't have told unless I wanted it to stop, unless she sounded proud, maybe she does like and was bragging to you or trying to entice you. It is very possible.

On the other hand, she could be lying, because if she does "want to be cool" about it, then she wouldn't be telling someone who cares about her and would make it stop if it were true. Mom's never around working those 3 jobs, maybe daughter has been on the computer/internet or watch a porno or read a porno and seen or read about these things. Either way, there is a lack of supervision and proper care for this child.

I would press-on the issue. No child should be exposed to that kind of behavior, either directly by the boyfriend or step-dad, or by having materials available with that kind of imagery or detail.

There is definitely something wrong with that picture. No sex education should have a 9 year old girl learning about stuff like that. Her mother needs to step back and evaluate where her daughter seen this or if it really is happening. She may have older friends spouting this stuff to her or in front of her, but even an older child aware of these types of sexual things should know better than to discuss them around or with a 9 year old little girl. I certainly would have had the sense not to say such to someone even a few years younger than or my age as a young teen.

I think I was 12 when I first learned about ejaculation and heard the term come, and even then someone wanting to lick their own fluids was not something I had heard of. Even then, I was disgusted by it and I hadn't had sex and I surely wouldn't have wanted to get any of it on me and I would probably puke if someone did that and then licked up too!

I would be interested in an update on this. That little girl needs assistance.