Hmm....Seems confusing. My T wants me to feel the anger towards my parents....but he knows how resistant I am to feeling angry because I love my parents so much and they turned out to be wonderful in my adulthood (just not when I was a child)....T told me that I have to go through the anger first, and then I will go back to loving them BUT accepting them for their limitations....It seems as though you haven't been able to express your anger enough to get some relief and the limitations piece is entering the picture too soon?