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Originally Posted by SpottedOwl
((((SAWE))))
For me what helped is the idea "love the sinner, hate the sin".
It is ok to be angry about what was done to you, but just hating the person does not solve anything. It is much like dealing with an alcoholic -- you know they are 'sick' and not always making good choices, but you still love them as a person and want them to get better.
Your parents may never 'get better', but those two ideas helped me the most when it came to the seeming contradiction of loving and being angry at the same time.
Most of all, be kind to yourself as you try to figure this all out.
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Right now I love them and right now I hate what they did; both at the same time and there is no puzzle there; but I have accepted the blame for what they did and the anger is pointed at me and doesn't go away.
I wish I thought T was on my side but apparently she is headed toward makling me say the words. It's my fault. So wake up SAWE, they didn't love you and why should they - or anyone else.
Get over it.
Gee, and to think I am paying money for thsi. I just did it all by myself for free.
>>>>> end of thread folks. thanks to all.