TF thank you for your gentle note (and all the rest of you). What would I do without you wonderful PC people. Your care comes into me like like rain on a dry piece of land.

Last year T and I had a discussion, about forgiveness (of anyone, in general), whether forgiveness is a choice.

She said it is, and not one that you make just once, but again and again. I said, no, that sounds to me like just stuffing your feelings, like all the other times, deciding to forgive. Even if your heart moves to forgiveness just a little at a time, once you truly reach it you don't have to try to find it again.

I guess we will see which of us is right. Hope so.

you folks are the best