VJ, right now you are probably feeling pretty raw and jittered, so go easy on your self. If my kid was feeling bad about not doing well enough to get to go to the special dinner (and I don't know that your s was, but I'mm guessing) I would be feeling pretty bad for his sake and I'm sure I wouldn't be so understanding of my sister either. Rant away.
I'm doing OK, just feeling very incompetent at work. Sigh. this always comes back. Huggs all!