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Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon
DJ & I live together and we are exactly the same as if we were married. We have sperate bank accounts but we pay bills as they come out of one account and then others out of the other account. We plan it so that we have savings left over and a comfy cushion for emergencies.
We may not be married (and we don't wish to be), but we live as a married couple does so why should we act any different?
I think you did the right thing though missquestions because it sounded like he was trying to take advantage of you and that is a low blow. I'd be wary of him because he was trying it on with you and that was why he let it go when you got into the car. He knows his boundary now and I doubt he will test you again for a while....
Rhiannon
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Originally Posted by steffi01
i agree with rhiannon plz be careful n test the waters since u must set the groundrules for ur financial situation with this guy or else u will b stuck in an abusive relationship. he has to know this loud and clear. pls take care of urself and do not compromise on such matters.take care
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We do live together and today I told him that we need to set a budget, the two cats are his and I have one. We haven't mentioned anything else about that day and I don't want to bring it up and add on the rest of the argueing that we have been having all month. I am honestly just tired of situations like that and now trying to move on from it. Today I did mention to him , why don't we set up a budget and use it for grocery, household items and cat supplies so that way we can keep track and if you don't want to do any of the work you won't have to ask me to pay for it and it would be simply fair and I won't feel like he is taking advantage of me. Rhiannonsmoon, may I ask why do you and your boyfriend live as a married couple but have no plans to? I believe in the future years from now I would like to be married but I know I would like to sort out all the problems first before legally married.