JimmyClifton,

I am not sure you understand what exactly a battered woman may go through when in that situation. I, being in that predicament once myself, am offended by that comment. It almost seems as though you are blaming the woman for something someone else is doing. One of the biggest misconceptions an abused person thinks is that they deserve the abuse, like they have done something wrong, but at the same time they think that they can change the abuser. I haven't been on this site for a few weeks and I am sorry that I came back tonight-I see that there are still those who are insensitive to the pain others have had to endure.

I have made some pretty poor choices in my life but I have definately learned from my mistakes. What I am beginning to realize is that there are a lot of judgemental people in this world whose ignorance is totally unbecoming.

Furthurmore, J3nnif3r73, if you feel like this man is mentally abusing you or feel abused- don't let him treat you that way. Tell him how he is making you feel and if he acts like a pompous fool then you will be able to see his true colors. But if he takes what you say to heart and apologizes and tries to rectify the situation, hang on to him. It sounds like he really wants a future with you but sometimes that future seems so overwhelming that he gets scared and lashes out to make it seem not as real. Good luck you sound like a sweet person who deserves to be treated as such.