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Is money the hidden source of your arguements? You mention a couple of occassions that he asked you to foot the bill, and state that you feel you are being taken advantage of. How do you think he feels after footing the bill for the last eight months? Is he of your culture as well?
I confess to having a double standard myself, and this thread has brought up an issue that I need to discuss with my sons. I've raised my boys to open car doors, pull out chairs, walk to the girl's door to pick her up and drop her off, and to pay for their dates. I've raised my daughter to be independent. That if he pays for the meal, you buy the movie tickets. Or you pick up the tab on the next date.
It sounds very much like he's been trying to tell you that he wants you to do your share financially and you have intentionally ignored him. The statement "our night out last night was very expensive, could you pick up lunch" is very clear, and in my opinion very reasonable. Cultural beliefs aside, if you had a friend that you went to lunch with once a week would you expect her to pay for your lunch every week?
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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