I didn't get that at all from his post. He was merely giving an example to illustrate the point he made above it and in no way, shape or form intimated that anyone who is being physically abused deserves it. What he did state is a fact--it is the responsibility of the abusee to decide whether or not they will continue to ALLOW themselves to be subjected to more abuse (I'm not saying it's always easy.) In other words, just wishing ain't gonna make it so (make it stop.) An abused person (an adult) has a responsibility to THEMSELVES and part of that responsibility is to realize that they are not deserving of the abuse and that they must make a change in order for it to stop. No one else can do it for them. If not, they will likely continue to be abused, therefore the term (paraphrasing) "setting "one's self" up..." That's what I got from his post.

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