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Originally Posted by bloom3
belle, i'm sorry you are struggling with trust issues after what happened with mark. poop on him for that.  i do think it's good that you are not ignoring those feeling though even if they are just your own anxiety. i think i'd talk to louis and just ask about the FB thing because it is harder when you guys are long distance most of the time.
just out of curiosity i'm wondering when you met his sister did she say anything about her brother to really give you an idea of who he is in relationships? like, "he's such a great guy and deserves a good woman", etc. or did she make any digs about him concerning his character? i ask because hey they're family and they'd know what he's really like even if they are biased. also, do you know much about his former relationships and what happened with them?
as for the marriage and family comments i think it is fine to talk about in a general way discussing what you both want out of life, but i'd be concerned if he's saying he wants that specifically with you already. that would be a red flag at such an early stage. i don't see any reason why he would need to discuss that already even if he felt that way. discretion can be a good thing. of course it's quite flattering though!
enjoy the ride girl. you're in the honeymoon phase of the relationship so everything should seem perfect.  |
Thanks Bloom
can always count on you to cheer me up and make me think sensibly (for most part lol)
We have just talked in general about marriage, kids and building the 'dream home' together... haven't dropped the big "L" word yet... just "really, really, really like you" and yes for most part it makes me feel secure and flattered... that we both seem to want the same things out of life.
The family were just nice. His sister told funny stories of past holidays etc, no digs at him or about him. His parents were much the same... talking about general stuff... family stuff and the like.
The only relationship that i know about (and we talked about ex's together) was a girl that he moved to sydney with.... not sure how long they were together.. for a about a year I think. She woke up one morning and told him it was over, seems she had fallen for her best friend... i only know that because he said that if i was ever going to leave him he would rather I left him for a male rather than a female - think he had slight issues over her leaving him for a girl. They broke up around the same time as Mark and I (so about 9 months ago)... he has had a few 'flings' inbetween, similar to mine I think - nothing too serious.
I don't know how to bring up the FB thing - I don't want to come a cross as so insecure and clingy... last time he was away I had a moment of insecurity and talked it over with him - don't want to have to put him through that everytime he is away at work.
I talked with my bestfriend tonight (we have very similar minds) and she thinks I should go back to my T, just see if he can help me move through the trust issues and the anxiety... think it's probably a good idea
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