Hi, Kira, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I think it is always hard when there's a breakup. It sounds like this is your first "real" breakup with this boyfriend?

I think I would not contact him, as he has requested, give him space, and spend the time helping myself. I don't know that it is possible, at the moment, for you to have a very equal relationship with someone. When in relationship one can't do "time outs" like it's a football game; it's a continuous think, like life. You can't just "stop" and turn off stimulation from other people, that's not healthy and the other people can't understand their part of it, it feels like you are trying to control them. I would see if I could get some counselling help to better understand my own feelings and actions so I can be comfortable with myself and not have to take "breaks" when I'm in a relationship.