Hello all I posted this problem yesterday but only 1 person responded and I also talked with my girlfriend for 3 hours last night so I have a firm grasp on what the problem is now.

Here's the rundown. We are both in our mid 20's. We have been dating for about a year. We love each other very much and there are only a few minor problems in the relationship. She knows I would NEVER cheat on her and I know this about her too However, she was engaged to be married about 3 years ago until she found out her ex fiancee cheated (he cheated, then proposed, then lied about the cheating which messed her up more). So even though she trusts me, certain things will trigger her to get feelings (it's like her brain trusts me and knows I'd never cheat but at the same time she has feelings almost like she felt that I already cheated). Like I don't go out very much but if I say "I'm going to the bar with Bill" in her mind she knows I'd never cheat but at the same time it triggers things of the past and she'll think "oh what is he going to do at the bar" or "is he meeting someone at the bar" and she doesn't wanna talk to me about this because she knows if she tells me she doesn't wanna feel like THAT girlfriend who tells me what to do and at the same time she knows I'm just going to dismiss her concerns. After all, I'd never hurt her. So now I know her problem. I know what triggers her feelings to get like this but it's not like I can not trigger them sometimes. Like I can't just NEVER go out again or it's like whenever I discuss a conversation with a female employee, it's not like I can NEVER talk to another female again. So I can help by watching what can trigger those feelings but at the same time, that's almost avoiding the REAL problem of her getting those feelings in the first place. So is there anything she can do? Anything I can do? It doesn't look like it'll go away antime soon. And when she does get these problems she distances herself from me and I feel like the bad guy and I feel like a bad boyfriend even though I know I'm doing everything I can to be as loving as can be. I don't like how she trusts me yet sorta almost kinda doesn't. She makes me very happy though and I'm willing to solve this problem and finding someone else is surely not the answer! She's a wonderful girl!!! Please help Thanks guys!