Heather, I am puzzled by "foolish" and LMo's comments, can't people let bygones be bygones? Isn't that what families strive for? On the other hand if people go to places and do not find what they are looking for isn't it nature then to continue to go elsewhere to find such place?
I have been very fortunate in "chat", I have never come across anyone being hostile to anyone there, I think if anyone has they should try to iron it out or speak to "admin" about it.
"Chat" can be a fun place and supportive too
Hope all is well for y'all and enjoy the weekend.

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON