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Originally Posted by AAAAA
Is money the hidden source of your arguements? You mention a couple of occassions that he asked you to foot the bill, and state that you feel you are being taken advantage of. How do you think he feels after footing the bill for the last eight months? Is he of your culture as well?
I confess to having a double standard myself, and this thread has brought up an issue that I need to discuss with my sons. I've raised my boys to open car doors, pull out chairs, walk to the girl's door to pick her up and drop her off, and to pay for their dates. I've raised my daughter to be independent. That if he pays for the meal, you buy the movie tickets. Or you pick up the tab on the next date.
It sounds very much like he's been trying to tell you that he wants you to do your share financially and you have intentionally ignored him. The statement "our night out last night was very expensive, could you pick up lunch" is very clear, and in my opinion very reasonable. Cultural beliefs aside, if you had a friend that you went to lunch with once a week would you expect her to pay for your lunch every week?
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Hi,
You are absolutely correct, I think it was great that he communicated with me. Culture wise, I am Chinese and he is Jewish, I was brought up in a way , where women never have to pay because we bring the household together and we are the ones that carries the baby in our body. I recently told him that we need to set a budget so no one feels like they have over paid over underpaid and the dinners are expensive that he spends on me and we do that once a month for our monthly anniversaries. I hope this method will work and that we wont have to talk about money issues anytime soon.