hmmm....it doesn't quite fair that you have to learn to self-soothe by yourself. And no contact w/T...that's kind of harsh too, especially if you're only going monthly.

Anyways....self soothing is a way of comforting/nurturing yourself. I was taught to use the 5 senses. LOOK at something beautiful and admire it(even just web photos is good if you can't go somewhere) SMELL something nice...lavender, roses, ocean, an orange. LISTEN to something soothing, music, ocean, river etc. TASTE something good...I like dark chocolate but it can be anything. TOUCH something soothing, a blanket, silk scarf, pet...etc.

It works well when you combine a few together. I like to go down to the beach, see the ocean, smell the salt air, listen to the waves, feel the sand in my feet. You have to really focus on each thing.