I HATED being diagnosed Borderline. But then, I found out, most true BPD do resist and hate it! I went in one hospital Bipolar 1 with psychotic episodes, and came out the same diagnosis, PLUS Borderline Personality Disorder. I couldn't believe it and rejected it completely for years. I asked all of my doctors to make it a second tier diagnosis, not my main diagnosis which is absolutely acceptable and I might even suggest to you to do. Later I found an OUTSTANDING psychiatrist I truly trusted. He did have a talk explaining things to me. This is what I found out:

By definition, Borderline Personality Disorder, is a very sad disorder. Most people seem to think it's about being angry. I knew I wanted nothing to do with it!!!!!! Then I found out that it merely means that something happened in your childhood that made you adopt unhealthy coping skills. As one gets older, those unhealthy childhood coping skills no longer work as an adult with other adults. The tricky part is, one has to unlearn those unhealthy skills and learn new healthy ones in place and that are adult. It demands compassion, unlike what many people seem to think of borderline...

Whatever happens, it's always important to have compassion with any disorder. I hope things work out, and you find peace - with whatever your diagnoses are or are not.

Wildflower88