You can learn from other people's mistakes jiakhan. I met my husband when I was 18 and just entering university. The 1st mistake I made was not knowing what I wanted to be career wise. Next was not focusing on my studies. The 3rd and worst mistake was, I believed that it was okay not to finish and that by BF(now husband) would take care of me - huge mistake.

This made me dependent on him and now I'm stuck in a terrible mess of a marriage that would drive anyone crazy. I had my kids late and I'm older now and don't feel very employable and there's no way I can support them on my own.

I'm sharing all this with you, so you can learn how to be an 'independent' strong woman and to always be in control or at least equal standing in your relationship with men. Since you know you need to prioritize, you can start doing that. Do you think you should be on medication or speak with a therapist you can relate to? I'm happy you're thinking about the future - that's a good sign. I wish I had this knowledge when I was 18 but I didn't have anyone to guide me with wise advice.