Thanks for the compliment I wouldn't say I'm wise. I would say I had good parenting and good schooling and was in the right situation and have the right temperment. I wouldn't say wise but I'll gladly take the compliment

Well I have an update for you. I talked to my girlfriend for a half hour. We are going to have our space for a week and she's going to think things through. Ultimately I told her she needs to see a trained psychologist. She feels she can NEVER be in a relationship and it's sad to see her think that. So I found a psychologist for her to see in her area and she promised she would call her (being that she has trust issues I think it's best for her to see a female). I'll keep you posted but it looks like there's promise here Thanks again guys!!!