Heidu,
I understand how you feel. Sometimes you can get so wrapped up here with everyone that you do forget about other things.
I admire the fact that you are taking care of YOU, and that you want more for yourself. Online people can never take the place of 3D, although some of us try, like myself.
You know I have no one in 3D that I really connect with (excluding my T and Alex) and that it does get lonely. The problem is that I bury those feelings and simply spend more time here.
I hope you find the happiness that you seek and deserve. You are a wonderful person.
Mary Alice